I dont get how so many parents dont know that you cant love others if you dont love yourself. ofc this isnt the driving factor when it comes to a "bad" parent, but it sure is a big one. Litterally don't think that your kids are not supposed to go through the hardships that you went through. You let them live their life no matter the pain and suffering and let them find their own answer to that pain. Everyone is different, but no one is capable of adjusting to something they haven't felt. NOT EVEN BIG RAGA THE OP STOPPA. (jjk reference)

I feel like the problem was mentioned a few chapters ago. The problem is that Sae's parents praise her results instead of her efforts. They even suggest what she "should" do or aim for (e.g. the dad pointing at another painting and suggesting Sae should do that). Sae is pressured to aim for certain results and feels like it's a moral failing if she doesn't achieve them. She's falling in the trap of thinking her failures are a result of not working hard enough. Her parents encourage this problematic behaviour by boasting about her results and not praising her efforts. She's not viewed for who she is. Her self worth is being linked to her merit and achievements, and that's something that could destroy her if it continues.